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Hello, everyone.  I'm new to this site, and I'm not really sure what I'm looking for here.  I guess I didn't really know that there were people who even thought girls who looked like me were pretty.  I'm not really sure I even believe it yet...I mean, I'm 27, and I'm still a virgin.  I used to try to find someone, when I was in college, but eventually I just go so frustrated, so I gave up and shut it all down.  Now, I'm starting to realize that may not have been a good decision, and I'm really not sure what to do about it.

I don't know if I need advice, or encouragement, or for someone to tell me to knock it off and move on.  I think being able to just put all this down is probably good for me...cathartic or something.  Thanks to anyone who bothered reading this whole thing.  I'll shut up now.

Hi Lily,
Well done for making the first step I am sure you are a lovely person but need confidence,I hope more people reply to you,
Best wishes,
Bill x

Hi, Lilly.

I'm a skinny girl who likes big girls, so I'm not sure how useful this advice is going to be, but here are my thoughts:

• Confidence is sexy, no matter what.  If you, like me, are a little shy and awkward, confidence can be hard to come by, however.  The trick I used is to pretend to be confident: when you go somewhere, anywhere, act like you belong.  Say to yourself, "I have every right to be here and enjoy myself," put on a smile, and you'll have a good time--or at least a better one than you would otherwise.
• Don't beat yourself up over your mistakes.  Don't ignore your mistakes, either,  but don't dwell on them.  Learn from them.
• If you want to meet new people, and you don't have mutual friends to introduce you, put yourself in unusual and uncomfortable situations.  I don't mean go somewhere you think is dangerous or get into situations that might cause you serious bodily harm, but join social groups (Yahoo! groups are pretty good for that; it's how I met the lady I'm dating now), go to bars or restaurants you aren't familiar with, talk to strangers, go camping with friends from work.  That sort of thing.  Force yourself to get to know people you otherwise wouldn't.

Well, that's my advice for dating and meeting people generally.  Also, on a more silly note, a friend once told me this: "No matter how depressed you get, always remember that you are someone else's fetish."

Cheers,
--tasty_tiffany